14 Feb

proverbs 1921

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” ~ Proverbs 19:21 (NIV11). Does this Bible verse ring true in your life like it does mine? As I have walked down my journey in life over the past years, I can honestly say it is amazing to me how God overcomes all storms in our lives regardless of our struggles, hurts, disappointments, etc. I have learned through life experiences that we must endure certain tribulations in life to be the person God wants us to be and get to where He wants us to go in life to fulfill His purpose for us on this Earth. Throughout my years of growing up, I will admit that I have made plans only to be witness to God completely moving them in a different direction. Like many of you, I have experienced my share of trials and blessings in my life, but now finally grasped the concept that both are necessary in order to mature in our relationship with God and go to Heaven with the Lord one day.

Today, I have decided to share how God was able to help transform me while dealing with my biggest heartache in life. Plus, I hope it will provide inspiration to many since I know a lot of women face this same hurt in their lifetime. D-I-V-O-R-C-E is that seven letter word that I never like to say when sharing my life with others. I always imagined my life would be much different today than it is right now. Growing up, I always had a vision of how a picture perfect marriage should be after seeing my parents live a blissful life for many years until my father’s passing a few years ago.

When I was caught up in the midst of my divorce, I could not understand why it was happening and did not want to deal with the pain associated with our separation. I learned I could not rid myself of the pain and bitterness, much less the desire to forgive until I turned the whole situation over to God. As I went through the course over the next several months, God was able to open my eyes and heart and see the situation for what it really was and allowed me the strength to move on with my life. This was when I finally learned that all things are possible with God through the good and bad times in our lives. He wants us to share every aspect of our life with Him and live the life we deserve because He loves us so much. It is amazing to see all the good works that God did in my life when I reflect back on all the struggles I had to endure as I went through the entire process. My life was one big rollercoaster and had its share of ups and downs. Today, I thank God for this trial in my life because He allowed me to rediscover who I am as a person, made me realize I am a stronger person than I thought I was, and how He can turn any problem into a miracle. Most of all, I learned that my life is all about glorifying Him and no one else. As long as we realize God is on our side as we face any trial in life, we will gain the wisdom and strength to get through it with His help. God is always on our side!

In conclusion, I can honestly say it is amazing to realize how far I have come seven and a half years later after my divorce. Two things that helped me deal with this situation in my life in addition to God was reading the book, Growing Through Divorce by Jim Smoke and attending a divorce recovery class called Divorce Care ( Due to this experience in life, God has allowed me to minister to others who I encounter in life. I am no longer afraid to open up about this past situation if it means helping others who are hurting today. No one quite understands the level of pain one goes through in a divorce better than someone else who has encountered this same problem in their life. In the past, I have helped with divorce recovery classes by sharing my story with others because it has helped me in my healing process. God also made me realize when you go through this type of ordeal in life, it takes time to heal those broken wounds. Everyone is different when it comes to dealing with pain and suffering, but it all starts with a little time and restoration through prayer with God. Today, I have come to grips with my past because I know God is not finished with me yet and has much greater plans in store for me and my life. This trial ended up being one of the biggest blessings in my life because He allowed me an escape from the pain and suffering as He laid a hedge of protection around me. It is my hope that other women who are faced with this trauma in their life can go on to find the level of peace and comfort I feel today.

gods help


This song has helped me alot though some rough times in my life. Jesus, I will praise you in this storm called Life. You will never leave us nor forsake us! Hallelujah!


serenity prayer


8 Responses to “Prevail!”

  1. sissielynn February 14, 2013 at 12:43 am #

    Wonderful! and so true that it takes everyone a different amount of time to heal from whatever they have gone through and there is not some timeline that all of a sudden upon reaching a point in it all is better. I’m so glad you had such a God group for support as you went thru your journey.

    • sissielynn February 14, 2013 at 12:44 am #

      oops forgot to tell you sissielynn is me Charlotte O (OBS leader)

  2. Jackie Strange February 14, 2013 at 10:05 am #

    I understand the pain that divorce can bring. I went through an ugly one in 1991. My heart hurts for anyone who endures that kind of pain. As you have, many lessons have been learned by going through it. In sharing your story with others it does help the healing process. Thank you for sharing your heart!

  3. Melissa Taylor February 14, 2013 at 4:04 pm #

    “Today, I thank God for this trial in my life because He allowed me to rediscover who I am as a person, made me realize I am a stronger person than I thought I was, and how He can turn any problem into a miracle.”

    So true!!!

    I love how you allowed God to use your divorce to refine you and not define you. Then you used what you went through to help others. Often it takes someone who really understands to show us that God is good.

    Thanks for sharing!

  4. smeltontx February 14, 2013 at 6:18 pm #

    I love that song…. and SO my theme song right now. LOL

    I think it is so aweome how you have helped others through divorce. God is awesome! I love how he uses people.

  5. tdm4him February 14, 2013 at 7:19 pm #

    Charlotte – great blog! As you know I too have been divorced – almost 5 years now! Certainly a growing experience! I was surprised to see you have been to DivorceCare – Our Church offered this amazing group too – I started going just after my ex left…and I have never left — hehe; now I am the facilitator of the Divorce Care Group at our Church – so glad this material is available! Thank you for your blog…always good to know you are not alone! God Bless You!!

  6. Debbie Williams February 14, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

    Love it Charlotte. So sorry for your divorce but wow how God has blessed you and brought you through it and now you are ministering to others. Debbie Williams (OBS Leader)

  7. Britt February 14, 2013 at 10:55 pm #

    Thanks for sharing 😉 My own family went through a hard divorce and because it was never dealt with, the pain was passed and when I got married I had a lot of healing and things to work on in my own life. I appreciate your honesty and openness.

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