Put your hands up!

20 Feb

Barbie Jeep

Well, here I am, in the third week of the Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Study titled, “Let.It.Go.” by Karen Ehman. I am halfway through the book at this point and can succumb to say that letting go of control is essential in our daily walk with God. You can bet I am one of many who still have a hard time resisting control when we get caught up in rustle and bustle of our lives each new day. This week, we have learned some helpful techniques for proper mothering rather than trying to micromanage our children and learning how to care for a balanced home in chapters 5 and 6.  Naturally, I cannot completely relate to these two chapters since I am divorced with no children, but I can recall some all too familiar moments from my childhood regarding proper mothering and managing a household.  This week, I will explore the topic titled, “Put Your Hands Up!” because one too many times I have found myself in a lackluster mindset when it comes to managing the important elements in my life. In the paragraphs below, I will discuss what I have gained from these two chapters that I hope to hold on to for my life in the future.

As I read through the chapters, I discovered that we are blessed to have everything God gives us in our life. In return, we should learn to hold everything close and dear to our hearts and never take it for granted for one minute. There are times I think it would be easier to just throw my hands up and give up, but we need to continue working hard to maintain what we have in life and keep everything in check to avoid added turmoil later. I’ve learned over the years, it is important to develop and maintain a healthy family and home life.

During my childhood, I will admit I do not feel I grew up in the perfect family environment. My parents were very old-fashioned, strict and overprotective when it came to me and my sisters. They were always willing to do without in order to provide for us which I found out is because they loved us so much. My sisters and I had assigned chores every week in our household, and if they went undone we did not receive our allowance. My mom was very good about delegating different chores each week to be fair among all three of us. My least favorite chore (still remains true today) is dusting the house. My allergies seemed to get disturbed by the dust particles that settled around the house and it also took the longest time to get done. So, needless to say, I dreaded getting assigned this chore every few weeks. Nowadays, I have learned as I got older that all elements of cleaning need to be done in order to have a tidy home. Plus, the longer you put off cleaning, the messier it will get over time and take even longer to clean up. Why do we put off something until tomorrow, when we can make time for it today? I am fortunate to have grown up in a household where I was taught to take care of a home because I have learned to appreciate it all that much more today. When I was married, I was very faithful in cleaning the house every weekend because it was easier for me to manage and did not take as much time. Nowadays, since my divorce, I find I have become more relaxed in my efforts since I find other ways to occupy my time. I am doing my best to develop my old habits again since I am constantly reminded to take care of things I own.

My two younger sisters and I had to be taught boundaries growing up because we had a hard time sharing with each other and would fight over such miniscule things. “They need to know the rules of the house (and the whys behind the rules) and the expectations from the parents in charge” (pg. 86). Naturally, parents want to instill good values and morals in their children but sometimes can get off track by the daily distractions and behaviors of others. My parents had to invest in a station wagon in order to keep us separated when we went on family vacations since we had an urge to pick on each other all the time. When you grow up with siblings in the family, you learn from an early age that you do not always get what you want in life. When we overstepped those boundaries, we got punished for it so we would be taught right from wrong. My parents did not enjoy disciplining us at times, but wanted us to grow up being responsible adults in life and go on to carry those same traits with our children. I seem to recall my dad saying, “Just wait until you grow up and have children of your own, then you will understand.” I have witnessed the challenges my sisters have encountered raising their children today, and they now realize the hardships my parents faced when we were growing up.

When I was growing up as a child, I remember playing with my Barbie dolls all the time. Ken and Barbie were married with a child named Skipper, and they lived in a plastic house and drove a plastic car. This was the perfect make believe world back in those days because we did not have to deal with the drama and chaos that households have to endure today. Every time I set up the plastic house, it did not take more than a minute to get it situated to where I could play with it again. Unfortunately, it is not quite that simple when it comes to keeping watch over our house in today’s world. When you have young children, you can expect the house will be in shambles every day as it contains toys scattered all over the floor. Then, every time someone goes to the kitchen to cook, you can expect dirty dishes with each meal that have to be washed after each meal. It takes plenty of patience, organization and time management to maintain a busy household in an orderly fashion. God expects us to take good care of the things he blesses us with in our life. A part of this responsibility starts with maintaining a tidy household. Sometimes the house chores get put on the backburner when our time becomes preoccupied with our faltering routine or leisure activities.

Barbie House

In conclusion, I think it is summed up best when women learn to live and follow the committed course of a Proverbs 31 woman when it comes to maintaining a balanced life. The Bible is our reference to the basic instructions before leaving Earth. When it comes to being a Godly wife and mother, she converses with others in a supportive and respectful manner (v. 26). The next verse states she protects the affairs of the household (v. 27). Maintaining a household that honors God comes down to finding a happy medium between a balanced structure and speaking in a dignified tone. The key to running a successful household is creating and following a list of ground rules for everyone to follow. When one learns the difference between being a control freak and being conscientious, then they can begin to understand the importance of God’s guidance and how it plays the key role to the management of a family and the household.

1 Thessalonians 2:7-8 (AMP) ~ But we behaved gently when we were among you, like a devoted mother nursing and cherishing her own children. So, being thus tenderly and affectionately desirous of you, we continued to share with you not only God’s good news (the Gospel) but also our own lives as well, for you had become so very dear to us.

Proverbs 31:27 (HCSB) ~ She watches over the activities of her household.

proverbs 31 woman


12 Responses to “Put your hands up!”

  1. smeltontx February 20, 2013 at 6:22 pm #

    What a great post! I definitely have a lot to learn in this area. I need to live a more balanced life. Loved the Toy Story clip too!

    • ceragsdale February 21, 2013 at 11:40 am #

      Thank you, Stephanie! I appreciate the positive comments. Glad you enjoyed the video too..a bonus I decided to add at the last minute! GBU! 🙂

  2. Kara (OBS leader) February 21, 2013 at 6:07 am #

    What an awesome post. I loved the reference to barbie and ken and playing dolls. I also loved the toy story clip. Thanks for sharing.

    • ceragsdale February 21, 2013 at 11:38 am #

      Thank you, Kara! I appreciate the nice comments. Yes, I was rather obssessed with Ken and Barbie dolls growing up. I cannot believe how many more choices kids have when they go to the store to select a Barbie doll these days. Glad to know one of my favorites growing up is still going strong today. GBU! 🙂

  3. brokenbutnotforgotten February 21, 2013 at 7:41 am #

    I loved your post. And I agree with you in what you express in this post. When you think about it all boils down to is appreciating what you have and having a right perspective every situation that God gives you for that moment. God Bless

    • ceragsdale February 21, 2013 at 11:35 am #

      Thank you! It is amazing how much I have been able to grasp and learn about life thanks to my relationship with God. The older I get, I am learning to be truly grateful for everything I have in life…good or bad…everything happens for a reason! Thank goodness I pray for spiritual wisdom and guidance to get me through each day. GBU! 🙂

  4. Amanda G, OBS leader February 21, 2013 at 11:09 am #

    I love how you found nuggets of wisdom you could use even though you are not married or do not have children. Thank you for the wonderful insight.

    • ceragsdale February 21, 2013 at 11:32 am #

      Thank you, Amanda G! 🙂 This was actually the only one of the blog options I felt like I connected with this week and the right one that God laid on my heart to talk about in regard to sharing with my sisters in Christ. So glad to hear you enjoyed reading it. GBU! 🙂

  5. Rebecca Jo (@RebeccaJoKnits) February 21, 2013 at 11:19 am #

    You are awesome! I have been wanting to see someone who isnt the typical mom/wife response. I have no children of my own & felt a little funny during some of these – but love to see how you have learned so much through this yourself.
    & anyone that can throw Barbie in learning about God – I love it! 🙂

    • ceragsdale February 21, 2013 at 11:30 am #

      Thanks for the nice comments, Rebecca Jo! I was not sold on using the Barbie and Ken example in the beginning, but eventually decided to take a chance on it. So glad to hear you enjoyed reading it. GBU! 🙂

  6. sissielynn February 21, 2013 at 3:35 pm #

    Great post! Love it! Charlotte O-OBS Leader

    • ceragsdale February 21, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

      Thank you, Charlotte! I appreciate the kind comment. I had to find a creative way to talk about my childhood since I do not have any children. GBU! 🙂

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